Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Monday, November 28, 2011
"Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success."
So many times we are driven by success. So many people look at success to be the indicator whether or not a person has made something with their life. But it should be the other way around. We should not measure the success of a person, but indeed their happiness. Why are we so drawn to success? Why do we commend others who achieve so much rather than those who are focused on their own happiness?
Success to many means money. As we know money rules the world. It's money that controls our government and our society. So with that in mind it is easy to see how we can be so foolish as to measure success as happiness. We applaud the person who owns the business, who lives in the fancy house with shiny cars. But is this person really happy? Deep down? Is this person content with themselves and life? Or are they consumed with the almighty dollar? Let's hope that most of these people are happy with the results of their hard work. But how many are really searching? Are they searching for happiness and the true meaning? What makes a person happy?
For instance, take Asian culture into account. Why are they so concerned with perfectionism? Success. Success. Succuss. The Asian population is know for its meticulous perfectionism when it comes to everything. They expect so much from each other, and tend to put a lot of pressure on their children. The suicide rate is an alarming reality for many. There are those who kill themselves because they simply have not met up to the high expectations from others! They feel they aren't good enough, or they haven't done enough. It's sad. It's sad to think that a person really felt that way. Could you imagine? It's wrong to put expectations on others. And its wrong to want everyone to be the same. We are all unique individuals, and only we can tell ourselves what our true dreams and desires are. We have no one to live up to except ourselves. We make our own standards.
I myself had to come to a realization. When I was in high school, all the teachers and counselors were so concerned with helping the kids choose "the right path" for their education. I remember them questioning me and prompting me to make a decision about my future. I told them I wasn't for sure what I wanted to be. Well, they pretty much insisted that I had to figure it out so that I could choose a college and prepare myself for the upcoming future. So they would have the students take these career workshops so they could analyse our skills and give us suggestions as to what we may be good at. Of course nothing really sounded good to me. But the counselors would not give up. "You must pick something. You must make up your mind already. How come you don't know?" So after looking at numbers of different careers and being pressured by the adults I made a decision. And do you know what my decision was based on? The salary of the job description. At the time I didn't have a dream career, and with everyone wanting me to go to college to get a "good job," I simply gave in and decided I was going to be a Cooperate Administrator because the salary was so high. I figured I couldn't go wrong with that. Surely, everyone would be pleased. Everyone but me that is. I went to college, and I had a difficult time with some of my classes. I only went for two years before I dropped out. And in that time I changed my major three times. Unsatisfied with my choices and still undecided on what to choose for a career I dropped out after running out of money.
So what is the lesson here? Well, I think it is pretty obvious that we need to make our own decisions based on what will make us truly happy. See at the time I allowed myself to fall into line as to what others expected of me. My parents, my school, my society, they all expected me to go to college. But deep down, I still don't feel that is something for me. I don't believe it was the right choice for what truly makes me happy. It just wasn't me. I remember thinking, well I want to be a housewife with kids. Is that so bad? That is what I felt would make me happy. And that is what I do today, and I am happier now than I've ever been. Even to this day some people think of my choice as surprising. Some people find it strange that I actually want to stay home with my son instead of choosing to work. "Don't you want more money?" Umm...No. Is money really the answer to everything? Why is the focus on money? I don't need more money. Why, so I can buy more materialistic things? So someone else can raise my child? Is that really what is important in life? The money? There is no amount of money that is worth the time that I spend with my son. Children grow up fast, and soon he will be in school. Soon he will want nothing to do with me, and will have his own friends and interests. I am so thankful for the time that have with him. I am doing what I love, being a house wife. I love taking care of my husband and I love keeping up with the house and cooking for our family. To me, that is what is important. My focus is on my family. Happiness is not based on success, but happiness is our key to success.
What is your definition of success? What makes you happy? We should do what makes us feel good. What do I choose for my own life? These are the questions we should be asking ourselves, and only we know the answers. Now it is up to us to make it happen. Choose that path that is right for you. Do what makes you happy. And be your own judge to success. Remember happiness is the key to success.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
"The invariable mark of wisdom is to see the miraculous in the common."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
How many times do we stop to smell the roses? As we grow up we lose our sense of fun, our sense of being. Too many times there is something wonderful right in front of us, but we miss it because we are so involved in our own circumstances. There is so much wonder and grace in this Earth and we should really take the time to notice and appreciate what has been given to us.
Colors. Detail. Texture. Sight. Smell. Taste. These are all wonderful examples of things we may take for granted on a regular basis. Why? Because as we grow and the years go by we get used to things. We start to take things for granted. We need to slow down and look around. What do you see? I see a world full of wonder, if only someone would take the time to explore it. Look upon the world as if you were a small child. There are miracles all around us. Take the time to notice the small details, the mechanics of something and you will be amazed or even baffled on how it works or was created.
There are so many example of nature that could constitute as a miracle. Take the time to appreciate this world. When was the last time you really looked at something? Take a tree for example. Go up to one, get a good look. Feel the bark. Is it rough or smooth? How old is this tree? Is it older than you? Notice the color of the leaves and how they are shaped. There are all different sorts of trees. Imagine the process of Photosynthesis. Very complex What a miracle of life. How about a river? Listen to the sound as it passes by. What is the speed of the water. Is it slowly passing or is it rather swiftly moving? Think of the temperature and the habitat that this river creates. How many species can survive due to this particular river? Amazing. How about the mountains? Years and years of our planets structural change. The glaciers and water that formed them by carving into the surface. It's astounding! What about the stars? When was the last time you took the time to step outside at night and appreciate the stars? They are a gorgeous reminder to us that anything is possible. There are countless other galaxies out there. There is so much more to life. There is so much wonder and so many miracles that we should learn to appreciate rather than take for granted.
Some other great examples would be from the human body. Look at our brain for example. The complexity and use of our brain is extraordinary. Scientists have shown that our brain uses electricity to function! What?!? So we have electricity coursing though our bodies. Wow. How about the human eye? Isn't it such a miracle that we can see? Sensors that take in information, and upside down images transferred and reflected to our mind!!!! Do you see the beauty of this? It's Endless. The miracles of life are endless, if we could only see it it that way.
When we learn to look at the world with the eyes of a child, then we will find true joy. We will be grateful for all the things in our lives, big and small. We will look at everyday objects with amazement and realize what a blessing is truly in front of us. Wisdom is to see the miraculous in the common.
Thursday, November 17, 2011
"I don't have to worry about anything. If I do, then I am choosing to worry and it isn't necessary."
Jerry & Esther Hicks
One of the biggest habits some people posses is the trait of worrying. Americans are especially good at worrying because they tend to work the most and are so concerned with being socially accepted. They are also the largest consumers in the world and are the most materialistic. Any of these reasons can cause a someone to worry, and of course there are plenty of other reasons as well that could cause any given person to worry. So how often are we worrying? What is the purpose behind worrying? What does worrying do for us? And should we try to change our habits?
Most people in some shape or form worry about something everyday! So what exactly is worrying? How should we define it? Well, simply said worrying is projecting your thoughts into the future and imagining something bad. So when we worry we are imagining something bad happening and then we get flustered about it. So we are choosing to imagine bad circumstances. Hmmm... This cannot be good...We know that when we start to focus on something then the Law of Attraction comes into play. When we think negative then we are asking for negative. So if at any point we can catch ourselves worrying, we can always choose to turn the situation around. Sometimes it can be hard when you are caught up in the moment, but if we can stop and think just for a second, that is all it takes to turn our thought pattern around. And once we can get our thoughts onto something else then we will begin to start attracting more of the good things into our lives.
Stress, anxiety, and worrying are all negative aspects in our lives. If we can reduce the amount that we experience, then we can change our lives into something amazing. It is so important because so many people do not realize and understand that stress is the number one cause of disease. Dis-ease. The body is not at ease. It makes sense. Think about it. Stress causes sickness. Stress causes the body to actually break down. We must realize this and choose to live a life that we enjoy. There are so many options and choices. Choose to be happy and choose to think positive thoughts regardless the situation. There is no need for worry. Change your thoughts around when you catch yourself starting to worry. You can always change the situation around for the good. And truth be told, sometimes bad things do happen in our lives. But it is all about how you choose to deal with the situation. Are you going to only focus on what is going on and get caught up in it all? Or are you going to think about the good from the situation? The biggest factor here is that no matter what happens, good or bad, life will go on and everything will be okay. Everything always turns out. The Universe has its way of taking care of things. We need to get to the point where we can trust. Trust in life. Trust that things happen for a reason even if we don't understand it at the time. Trust that everything will work out, and it always does.
There is no need to worry. Worrying is imagining bad events to take place in the future. Don't choose to imagine the worse. Imagine the best outcome, and you will be surprised on how much will change in your life. Choose the good thoughts. Choose to be stress free. Choose health. Choose joy.